and then what?

What left after the breakup?

This could be a hard question for many people...for me is pretty simple. What left  after the break up? nothing but memories.

I always thought that could be hard to keep a friendship or whatever else after you decide to breakup. and it is. First because some of the party involved still migh love the "other significant one" what means that someone can get hurt in the "friendship zone", second because the "friendship"can be pretty messy and end up as a " casual sex mate" which can also bring pain to someone at some point..., and third you might realize that the best thing that you did for yourself was to be completly out of the other person's life.

I already went through some of the reasons listed above....nowadays, im stuck at the third one.

I gave someone else a chance to be privileged with my nice friendship after i decided to breakup and he decided to put the relationship on hold .For me ,  "Putting a relationship on a hold" , in my head means :they're not quite willing or ready to let go completely, and not willing to hold on completely... BTW , this is something that I have to mention in here : I can not understand why a grown man could think that by putting the relationship on hold would improve and help a relationship ,which the main problem( besides trust...) was the lack of feelings that the relationship came first in the "order of priorities" list. Oh well...

Well, let's go back to the subject in here...as I was saying ...I identify myself , at this moment, with the third reason and I am pretty aware of why I identify myself with that one more . It is easy to understand why a "friendship" doesn't really exist  when there is no communication ; when you mention something that bothers you and the person couldn't care less ; when you said which kind of support you need and then  you see this person doing everything else but supporting you...when you see that even in the "friendship zone"you're still not a priority... when you wanted to hear a compliment for preparing a nice cake .......oh oh oh wait.....isn't those one of the reasons why we brokeup???  pff......well...the lis t is big but i don't feel like going deeper in that...

What changed during the switch "Couple - friends" process? in fact nothing changed at all. Just the certain that sometimes keep a friendship with an ex can be pretty exhausted ...and sometimes instead of making you regret of your choice....just make you even more sure about it.

Note to self: get away from people who doesn't know what they want...or who is not brave enouh to say what they really want in your face...and please manuela please ...no more chance to friendship who doesn't really exist.

If we don't have a relationship, a friendship....what does we have? what remains besides memories?

...nothing, my dear....NOTHING. :)